Enduring infertility and/or pregnancy loss is a painful process and one that is often not acknowledged or sadly silenced altogether. It is made more painful because of the amount of uncertainty that is very difficult to sit with. It can feel extremely unfair, especially when those around you are celebrating their pregnancies and children.

Having had my own struggles in starting a family, and not always feeling like I knew how to speak about what I was going through, I knew I wanted be able to support those going through this difficult process. Coming to therapy will not make what you ultimately want come true, but my hope is to provide a space where you can share and explore the difficult feelings that are going on for you - anger, resentment, fear, grief, anxiety, there is so much that can and will show up over this period.  

It is also very easy for infertility and the desire to get pregnant to take over and lose touch with other areas of yourself and life that one brought or could bring value and purpose. Maybe you are having to go through tests and procedures, or getting nowhere in regards to knowing why you are not getting pregnant or carrying to term. Women who have been diagnosed with menstrual difficulties such as PCOS, Endometriosis or Hypothalamic Amenorrhea may also have additional challenges to manage which can unfortunately cause further stress as there is not easy access to appropriate treatment for these conditions. We have so much access to information and options at our finger tips, but it can often just lead us to feel more unsure about our choices. Therapy can support you in processing the feelings and traumas of these experiences and support you in also connecting to your life, your relationships and yourself as a greater whole.

Pregnancy loss on its own or possibly in combination with fertility challenges are important to acknowledge. As soon as you (or your partner) become pregnant, your world view, plans and chemistry as a whole changes. It is a devastating experience and one that truly deserves acknowledgment and space to process. As a society, we are not not comfortable in speaking about grief, but this is even more true with pregnancy loss. Too often those who go through this feel like maybe their loss is not “big enough” to be granted the true time and space it needs. Pregnancy loss (multiple or singular) can also make any subsequent pregnancies extremely anxiety provoking. This is where therapy can support you in being with the difficult feelings, and also learn ways to be grounded in what is actually happening now.

I want to include the non-child carrying partner and extend this supportive space to them as well. It is very difficult for both parties in the relationship and the non-child baring partner also would benefit from a space to process the stress, grief and lack of control. I do not work with couples, but would be happy to work with either parties and gladly refer the other to an appropriate therapist.

If you would like support in these areas or have more questions about whether I would be the right fit for you, please get in touch.